How to Identify Child Anxiety
By Ellen Laughlin, Psychotherapist at Kids' Therapy Works
It's completely normal for children and young people to feel worried and anxious from time to time – just as adults do. But when anxiety gets worse rather than better, or starts to get in the way of daily life and the things your child enjoys, some extra support may be needed.
What makes children anxious?
Some children are more naturally prone to anxiety than others, especially those who find change difficult. Anxiety can be triggered by significant life events – moving house, starting a new school, or experiencing something frightening such as an accident. Conflict or tension at home can also be a factor, as can pressures at school, including workload, friendships, bullying, or simply feeling overwhelmed.
Signs of anxiety in children
In younger children, anxiety often shows up as a change in behaviour. You might notice:
Becoming irritable, clingy, or tearful
Trouble falling asleep or waking during the night
Bed-wetting
Bad dreams
Stomach aches or headaches
Older children may struggle with completing everyday tasks, or lack the confidence to try new things. Other signs include difficulty concentrating, angry outbursts, changes to eating and sleeping habits, and persistent negative thoughts – a sense that something bad is going to happen. This can lead to withdrawal and avoidance of everyday activities such as school, social events, or seeing friends.
When does anxiety become a problem?
Anxiety becomes a concern when it starts to affect daily life – when it feels very intense, keeps getting worse, or shows no sign of easing over time. It's also worth taking seriously when it stops your child from taking part in activities or doing things they enjoy. At this point, anxiety can affect confidence, self-esteem, and overall wellbeing.
Anxiety counselling at Kids' Therapy Works
If your child seems to be struggling with anxiety and could benefit from some extra support, Kids' Therapy Works Counselling offers a safe and supportive space where children and young people can explore their feelings at their own pace.
Ellen Laughlin holds an MA in Psychodynamic Counselling and Psychotherapy and works with children and young people experiencing anxiety, emotional difficulties, and relationship challenges. She is based at Kids' Therapy Works, Lakelands, Stanway, Colchester.
This post is part of the Children's Counselling Explained series, written to help parents understand the support available for their child's emotional wellbeing.